Oh Yes They Do

By February 25, 2011 3 Comments

I came across these pictures the other day.  I was reminded that children are constantly going through phases, usually messy phases of one sort.  Paige would not do this today.  She’s out of this phase.  She’s a little more grown up.

But it reminded me of how frustrated I was.   Seemed like every time I turned around, there was always another huge mess to clean up.

A few months ago Paige was bored.  While Cope was at school, her dear baby sister rummaged through her drawer until she found just the right entertainment:  Cope’s newly-purchased bright pink fuschia lipstick that she’d just bought with her babysitting money.

Why would you want to smear it all over a dresser, a stool, and Brynne’s jewelry box?

Apparently it dropped on the floor and then Paige stepped on it.  Then she walked around the carpet.  The white creamy carpet.  Not really white anymore.  Kindof a dirty blond now.  Have you ever tried to get lipstick off of carpet?
Oh no, this Mama was not happy.

Paige doesn’t get in trouble very often.  We are the nicest to her because she’s the baby.  So when I gasped, frowned, and began to say, No, No, No! Paige was very sad.  We scrubbed and scrubbed, used bleach and other chemicals, and finally the bright pink turned a dull pink.

After I cleaned off her face again, which took some mighty good scrubbing I might add, she was plain tuckered out.
And I gave a great sigh.  I was tuckered out too.  I sat by her and ran my fingers through her light wispy hair.

An Erma Bombeck Column:

A young mother writes: “I know you’ve written before about the empty-nest syndrome — that lonely period after the children are grown and gone. Right now, I’m up to my eyeballs in laundry and muddy boots. The baby is teething; the boys are fighting. My husband just called and said to eat without him, and I fell off my diet. Lay it on me again, will you?”


One of these days, you’ll shout, “Why don’t you kids grow up and act your age!”

And they will.

Or, “You guys get outside and find yourselves something to do … and don’t slam the door!”

And they won’t.

You’ll straighten up the boys’ bedroom neat and tidy — bumper stickers discarded, bedspread tucked and smooth, toys displayed on the shelves. Hangers in the closet. Animals caged. And you’ll say out loud, “Now I want it to stay this way.”

And it will.

You’ll prepare a perfect dinner with a salad that hasn’t been picked to death and a cake with no finger traces in the icing, and you’ll say, “Now, there’s a meal for company.”

And you’ll eat it alone.

You’ll say: “I want complete privacy on the phone. No dancing around. No demolition crews. Silence! Do you hear?” And you’ll have it.

No more plastic tablecloths stained with spaghetti.

No more bedspreads to protect the sofa from damp bottoms.

No more gates to stumble over at the top of the basement steps.

No more clothespins under the sofa.

No more playpens to arrange a room around.

No more anxious nights under a vaporizer tent.

No more sand on the sheets or Popeye movies in the bathrooms.

No more iron-on patches, wet, knotted shoestrings, tight boots, or rubber bands for ponytails.

Imagine. A lipstick with a point on it. No baby sitter for New Year’s Eve. Washing only once a week. Seeing a steak that isn’t ground. Having your teeth cleaned without a baby on your lap.

No PTA meetings.

No car pools.

No blaring radios.

No one washing her hair at 11 o’clock at night.

Having your own roll of Scotch tape.

Think about it. No more Christmas presents out of toothpicks and library paste.

No more sloppy oatmeal kisses.

No more tooth fairy.

No giggles in the dark.

No knees to heal, no responsibility.

Only a voice crying, “Why don’t you grow up?”

and the silence echoing, “I did.”



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