Want to be happier? Send a surprise gift.
The last few months I’ve been the recipient of a few surprise gifts. I’m still marveling at their impact on my life.
1. The window candles.
I was at church one morning last month and my body language must have indicated I was having a bad day. True. I was really sad. Denise found me and gave me a hug. I started rambling on about window candles. Why could I never seem to get them to work? After my mother-in-law’s death, I had inherited her window candles and was so excited to finally be that quintessential New England home with the December candles in the windows. I drove all the way to the store (here that’s saying something,) bought batteries, plugged them all in, and two days later they were tipped over, and all the batteries were dead. Dark windows. #fail
WHY? What was so hard about window candles? Frustrated, I threw them all away. And was sad and mad.
Whatever. Unimportant. How are you?
“I might have some you can have,” Denise said. “I’m downsizing.” So nice, but oh dear. This would require something from me. They wouldn’t work and I’d have to find the right size bulb, and blah blah blah adding to more stress and stuff. Thank you, anyway 🙂
A few days later I received a present. Inside were six, brand new Christmas candles. No batteries required. All the lightbulbs worked. They light up automatically when the sun goes down and go to sleep when the sun comes up. They stay upright. And every night, for the past month, when I pull into the driveway, there are candles lighting up my dark windows in the middle of the dark winter in New Hampshire.
It’s a small thing. But Denise made this happen for me. And it makes me so so happy.
2. A handwritten card from my sister, Andrea.
Even now, weeks later, I read this over and over. She wrote, “Thank you for being such a good friend…you wrote on your blog that optimism is your best trait. I disagree. I think your best trait is helping the people in your life feel loved…thank you, Amy, for loving me.”
It makes me cry every time I read it and I will cherish it forever, (especially when I’m crabby and not making anyone feel loved). A small thing. And makes me so so happy.
3. Paintbrushes from a master artist.
I was completely overwhelmed when I received these paint brushes, some sample paper, and a letter in the mail a few weeks ago from Leanne. “You must simply start painting with watercolor because your eye is flawless.” Huh? Me? It’s true that I’ve secretly wanted to become Monet for a long time, but…you know. I pretty much assumed that if I hadn’t started by now it was too late. But Leanne said, “you must simply start!” This EXCEPTIONAL watercolorist was telling me I should paint. And so I obeyed! Brynne and I have been putting paint on paper, and artist Jill has invited me to come to her class, and I’m discovering this great art form and loving it so much.
Yesterday I painted a bird 🙂 A small thing. It makes me so happy.
4. The gift of the rhubarb.
This past summer I was missing people. One day Tamar called and said, “I have a present for you but I have to give it to you in person.” She showed up with a rhubarb plant.
Oh dear. I had to plant something and not kill it.
“You won’t be able to kill it.” She said this stubborn rhubarb was weaving in and under her porch, reaping all sorts of destruction. She went to work on it, but was dismayed to see that she had unintentionally killed the whole thing!
“I was so sad. Every day this summer I came out to see if my rhubarb was growing back and every day there was nothing but dirt. Heather was dead and my rhubarb was dead and I was so so sad. Day after day. Well one day I came out and there was this tiny green shoot poking out of the ground! And I swear I heard Heather behind me. It was like she was right there and you know what she said? She said, ‘See! LIFE GOES ON!'”
And Tamar thought – AMY! She dug up the rhubarb plant, put it in a pot, drove all the way to my house, and told me the rhubarb story. “See! LIFE GOES ON!” And in my head I could see Heather standing behind me, pointing at the rhubarb in her strong, matter-of-fact voice. “SEE! LIFE GOES ON!”
My friends, none of these women had to bring me a gift. But for some reason, they thought of me, and then they ACTED ON THAT THOUGHT. They were busy with long to-do gifts and they stopped a moment to bring or send me a surprise gift.
They made me so so happy.
Funny the way gifts work. Friends and a sister put gifts in my lap and in the mail. They gave to me. But when I said thank you, I could see that they felt that same joy, too.
The best thing about a surprise gift is that it’s so unexpected. We expect gifts on our birthdays, at Christmas, and yankee swaps. But when a gift lands in your lap and is so out of the blue, oh my goodness, it’s SO FUN! And it’s so entirely delightful to see the look on the recipient’s face. No wonder Ellen loves her talk show so much – she unexpectedly gives gives gives. Her guests cry and jump up and down, and we, her audience – WE LOVE IT!
If you think that making the world a better place is out of your control, you’re mistaken. Our circle of influence is our most powerful weapon for good. Start there and you’ll see – happiness has a ripple effect and continues far and wide.
Secret of Happiness: send a surprise gift. You’ll see it, you’ll feel it…happy.
7. Reflective Running Vest. If anything else, your runner won’t be mistaken for a deer or a bear or a moose in the woods.
8. Runner’s Arm Sleeves. These are fun!
9. Headlamp. You know, for those 5 a.m. runs.
12. Gift Card for Running Shoes. Brooks, Adidas, Nike, Newton Asics: They all provide gift cards!
13. Neck Warmer. Help your lungs this winter. Protect your lips, chin, and cheeks from winter burn. Starting in November, I wear a neck/face warmer everyday until about mid-March. You can buy one for about $10 or cut and sew a piece of fleece together. Works much better than wrapping your face with a scarf.
14. Itunes gift card for the ipod or make a personalized running CD to upload to the ipod.
15. Shop the sales racks at Nike outlet right now – all the shorts are marked way down. Your runner (or you) will be more motivated to go out this spring with a spunky pair of shorts waiting for her/him.
16. Pedicure. Your runner needs foot love.
17. Pay for a race. One Christmas my dad paid for me to run the New Hampshire trail’s series – 6 races in 5 months. It was one of the best presents I ever received.
One Christmas we received a big box of Honeybell oranges. Oh my deliciousness! Instead of ordering crap, excuse me, give good stuff!
The biggest benefit to any of these gifts? It shows someone that you take health seriously, that we can do hard things, (which running often is.) When I receive a running gift, it’s validating…you believe in me.
Perhaps, you will need to forward this post to your own Buddy elf, or stuff a few of these items into your own stocking this year (sometimes we have to help ourselves out, right?)
|Be happy. Run like Buddy.|
7. Reflective Running Jacket. Or a reflective vest goes for about $15.
8. Runner’s Arm Sleeves. Buddy, I am seriously dying for a pair of these. No, that was not a subtle hint. There are so many colors to choose from!
9. Headlamp. You know, for those 5 a.m. runs.
10. Runner’s World Gift Certificate
11. Cookbook. I don’t have this. But doesn’t it look great?
12. Cliff Bars.
13. Gift card for running shoes
14. Neck Warmer. Starting in November, I wear my neck/face warmer everyday until about mid-March. You can buy one for about $10 or cut and sew a piece of fleece together. Works much better than wrapping your face with a scarf.
15. Itunes gift card for the ipod or make your runner a personal CD to upload to their ipod.
17. Shop the sales racks at Nike outlet right now – all the shorts are marked way down. Your runner (or you) will be more motivated to go out this spring with a spunky pair of shorts waiting for her/him.
18. Pedicure. Your runner needs foot love.
19. Pay for a race. One Christmas my dad paid for me to run the New Hampshire trail’s series – 6 races in 5 months. It was one of the best presents I ever received.
And, perhaps, you will need to forward this post to your own Buddy elf, or stuff a few of these items into your own stocking this year (sometimes we have to help ourselves out, right?)
There a lot of new apps and gadgets out there that I haven’t used yet. What’s your favorite running gift? Let me know and we’ll add it to the list!