Not Everyone Loves Christmas: Holiday Encouragement

By December 4, 2017 6 Comments

I’ve been sharply reminded several times already this month that not everyone is happy at Christmas time.

The “perfect Christmas” is supposed to be presents and treats and music and laughter. Most of all, it’s gathering with those we love the most.

But that doesn’t happen for everyone. Some of us are alone and some of us are surrounded by family but still missing someone. I think of Cassie. Of Heather. Andrew. The older we get, the list grows.

Katie Couric wrote a beautiful essay Here, of what she’s learned from missing her husband for the last 19 Christmas’s.

My father-in-law and I were listening to Christmas songs on the way home from Boston and the song, “I’ll Be Home for Christmas,” came on. “This is a sad song,” he said. “It’s from World War II.” I was pretty sure he was also thinking of his wife.

I thought of war time and all the young men and women who never came home. Not for Christmas and sometimes not ever.

Two of my close friends lost their husband’s this year. Stephen. Eric. We miss them.

My neighbor still longs for his wife who has been gone the last 20.

I believe that someday, we will be reunited with the ones we love the very most.

But in the meantime, we are here are on earth to help each other along the way.

I post this video in the hopes that we can be the light that makes someone’s Christmas bright.

(As a side note, there are several Cope sightings 🙂 )

Wishes and Candle for you:




  • Carrie Rubin says:

    A friend of mine’s sister lost her son recently, and it’s been heartbreaking for my friend to see her sister in such pain. The holidays will only magnify it for sure. Your post is an important reminder for us to be grateful for what we have this holiday season, because sadly, many people must spend the season without their loved ones.

  • Jen Fleming says:

    Thank you, Amy, for acknowledging this. While we are so very excited to finally be with Truman, Sandy, and Elliot, it is my little sister’s first Christmas without her husband. Dave and I find ourselves oscillating between sheer happiness and raw sadness. Thank you for the beautiful music!

  • Leanne Goeschel says:

    Good point and wonderful song to illustrate it. As an aside, Cope looks like college suits her beautifully.

  • Alana says:

    We went to the BYU Christmas concert and it was incredible. The Women’s Choir was amazing. We didn’t know Cope was performing until after the concert, so unfortunately didn’t get to meet up.
    You would have been proud, Amy—and I shed a few tears in your behalf.

  • Mary Nelson says:

    Thanks Amy. It is such a beautiful song and we were excited to see Cope.

  • Julia Tomiak says:

    Thank you Amy, for keeping Christmas real. All of the bows and lights and evergreens don’t replace the people we miss, and we shouldn’t pretend that they do. But hopefully we can keep those lights shining.

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